Sydney, Australia - What can women do to improve the intensity of their lovemaking, solo or with a partner? Sex expert and columnist Nadia Bokody has got you covered.

The Australian said she still remembers the first time she secretly put her hand under the covers and made herself climax.

And she hasn't looked back since.

She decided to make masturbation a regular ritual, like brushing her teeth.

But the 36-year-old is sure that she belongs to a minority.

In her newest column for the New Zealand Herald, she said that many women are ashamed to masturbate, and keep it a dirty little secret.

Many women, she said, are reticent and shy away from even talking about it. She believes that there is a false stigmatization of masturbation in society, when sexually active and confident women are often described as "sl*ts" or as "attention seekers."

Bokody also talked about gender inequality in sex, drawing on studies.

95% of all heterosexual men regularly reach orgasm during sexual intercourse. On the other hand, with women, usually just two-thirds experience a climax.

Nadia Bokody wants to normalize and increase people's affinity for female masturbation, citing other benefits of orgasms in women's daily lives – such as being less stressed, more productive, and more self-confident in their own bodies.

The columnist even lives by her own advice, admitting she sometimes masturbates when she's stressed at work.

Training pays off, as it does in sports, said the sexpert. Those who regularly visit the gym promote muscle building – and likewise, indulging in solo sex can increase libido, boost confidence, and make orgasms with a partner extra intense.

Those who know their bodies better can more easily and quickly reach climax max, too.

Thus, she believes lots of solo practice in the sheets is in order.

And this is one kind of workout everyone can look forward to!